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Personalizing the Wedding Ceremony

Personalized Wedding Ceremony MA
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The wedding ceremony is a special event where the two of you are joined together. You may opt for the traditional ceremony held in a church or may decide to have a more unique and personalized event. Couples have been married jumping from a plane, on the tops of a mountain, on a ship, on the beach, in their backyard and at city hall.

Wherever you decide to have your ceremony, you may want to personalize it by including some of these ideas:

  • Select readings or quotations that reflect how you feel about one another. These can be taken from the bible, poetry, works of fiction, etc. Suggestions include:
  • Include the lighting of a unity candle. This may include two small candles which are lit by the bride and groom's parents. The candles are then used by the bride and groom to light the larger unity candle.
  • Beach weddings are the perfect setting for a Sand Ceremony. Similar to the unity candle ceremony, but sand is used instead of candles.
  • Print a wedding program with a special message and distribute it to guests at the ceremony.
  • Remember deceased relatives and friends. (See below for ideas.)
  • Have a talented friend sing or play an instrument at an appropriate time during the ceremony.
  • Have a song written about how the two of you feel about each other or have a song written especially for your fiance.
  • Instead of having your guests throw rice, have them throw rose petals, birdseed or blow wedding bubbles.
  • Have butterflies, balloons or doves released during the ceremony.
  • The couple can face their guests during the ceremony.
  • The bride can walk down an aisle runner made up of fresh rose petals.
  • Have a Wine Cup ceremony. This is when each family fills up its own cup with wine. Then the bride and groom will each pour half of their family cup into one, shared cup. They will each take a sip. The shared cup represents their union and the half-filled family cups represent their individuality.
  • The bride can hand a rose to each guest (if it's a small wedding, because this can be costly!).
  • If you're uniting two families together, have a Family Medallion Ceremony.

Unity Candle

A unity candle is a symbolic part of your wedding ceremony and the wedding candle represents the joining of two people.  Choose from personalized unity candles, blended family unity candles, verse unity candles and wedding tapers.  Discover more about the unity candle ceremony.


Many brides are looking for a special way to honor their mothers at their wedding. One special way to do this is to carry a special item such as a handkerchief or family bible as you are wed. Another way to honor your mother is to present a flower from your bouquet to your mother during the processional and one to your new mother-in-law before the recessional.

Honoring a Deceased Loved One

It is often said not to mix the joy of a wedding with the sadness of a death. However, in some cases, honoring a loved one that has passed brings joy into the marrying couple’s life. Perhaps there is a late grandparent or parent that is not able to be with you on your special day - there are ways to include these special people on your wedding day. Here are some suggestions:

  • Say a special prayer or reading (this can be done in private or said by everyone)
  • Mention their name (briefly) in a speech at the reception
  • Make a donation to their favorite charity
  • Have your bouquet include a Bridal Bouquet Locket Charm Bracelet
  • Light a special candle
  • Include a Floating Memorial Frame Set
  • Glass Memorial Vase with Loving Hands
  • Place a special bouquet of flowers at the altar in a special Memorial Vase
  • Sing a special song
  • After the ceremony, go to the cemetery and place the bouquet on the grave
  • Carry a framed photograph of a deceased loved one down the aisle

Personalizing your wedding ceremony gives your day and the exchange of wedding vows a unique touch. Incorporating just one or two personalized ideas may be all that is needed for your wedding ceremony in MA.