Roles for Parents

Traditionally, the bride's parents paid for the wedding and did all the planning. Today, however, more couples pay and plan for their own weddings.

Planning a wedding can be an exciting, yet, stressful time. If you're offered help, take it. If you need help, ask for it. Giving a role to both sets of parents will make them feel important and may bring you closer. (Even the fathers want to be included!)

 

Below you will find a list of traditional roles. You may decide on which roles you would like to designate to each person.

Mother of the Bride

  • Find the perfect reception site.
  • Go bridal gown shopping with the bride. (Don't be hurt by her honest opinions!)
  • Help with the guest list.
  • Get references from her relatives and friends for caterers, florists, photographers, etc.
  • Select her dress and accessories. (Perhaps even going shopping with the groom's mother so that they can coordinate their wedding attire.)
  • Help you to decide on whether or not to include any family traditions.
  • Attend the bridal shower and the rehearsal dinner.
  • If you are not having your father walk you down the aisle, you may consider having your mother walk you down.
  • Greet guests in the receiving line.
  • If you decide on having a parents' table, she will be seated there.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the bride's father.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the groom.

Father of the Bride

  • Help you create a budget.
  • Find the perfect reception site.
  • Help with the guest list.
  • Select his wedding attire.
  • Help plan and pay for the rehearsal dinner.
  • Toast the groom at the rehearsal dinner.
  • Ride with the bride to the ceremony.
  • Walk the bride down the aisle.
  • Greet guests in the receiving line.
  • If you decide on having a parents' table, he will be seated there.
  • If he chooses, he may make a toast to the bride and groom.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the bride's mother.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the bride.

Mother of the Groom

  • May help the bride and groom search for the perfect reception site.
  • Create a guest list of all her (and the groom's father) friends and relatives.
  • Get references from her relatives and friends for caterers, florists, photographers, etc.
  • Select her dress and accessories. Perhaps even going shopping with the bride's mother so that they can coordinate their wedding attire.
  • Help you to decide on whether or not to include any family traditions.
  • Attend the bridal shower and plan the rehearsal dinner.
  • Greet guests in the receiving line.
  • If you decide on having a parents' table, she will be seated there.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the groom's father.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the groom.

Father of the Groom

  • Help with the guest list.
  • Plan and pay for the rehearsal dinner.
  • Select his wedding attire.
  • Greet guests in the receiving line.
  • If you decide on having a parents' table, he will be seated there.
  • If he chooses, may give a toast to the bride and groom.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the mother of the groom.
  • Dance a formal first-dance with the bride.